We have all seen how some parents are. "the cool" parents we see, the kids don't have much respect to their parents. And as a child, when I saw kids whining and getting or doing whatever they want, I would cringe. Because I knew my parents respected me enough to say what are you doing? You know better. And in that way, they placed responsibility with my self and I had the maturity to rein it in. Plus I love my parents and respect them enough I where I do break their trust, or hurt their feelings, I feel absolutely aweful and guilty. When that does happen, they stop the loving words and contact. And I feel empty and alone. Because I love them so much, I never want to purposefully tread on their fingers lifting me up. Because I love them so much <3 These might be all out of order, but it's interesting what we talked about in class with parents and kids. And it reminded me of my childhood how my parents treated me. I was their dear daughter that they love and respected. And because they treated me this way, I in return, grew to respect them even more as my life progressed. Your child is your child. Not your friend, or somebody to walk all over you. As brother Williams said, be firm, and friendly. Set boundaries, have set plans, and have mutual agreements. You are the parents and you love your kids. If you make those boundaries, and arrangements, a mutual respect will grow. The kid will in turn will learn responsibility and respect to those arrangements. <3 For guys to better talk to girls, to generally understand them maybe a bit better, is to talk like a girl. I said that in class without clarifying and I had several responses from classmates of disagreement and flapping hands. Although it may seem that way, and it is funny to think about it that way isn't it? :) to talk like a girl, is to think like a girl. Let me explain before you go off into another spectrum. The time I spend relaxing and hanging out after a long day is with a reasonably large group of guys. I've done this for a while as girls are scary and they hold grudges till they die. But I've noticed after a while, guys really do talk considerably different than women. Guys have a way of topping each other in every thing they say to each other. Ex., my workout was this, next guy casually puts in how many more pull ups than he did. Femals usually don't do that. When a guy talks to a girl, think of it. If he tries to seem utterly superior, girls usually get uncomfortable. Talk like you care what you say, and what they say giving examples of things relating to what they say. Talk like a girl. Think like a girl so as to better connect to them. Isn't that the objective to get a girl to talk to you? Or like you? Connect with them! |