We all know the arguments, the internet memes, the confusion and more than anything, the wall between people when it comes to talking and truly understanding. I've been in this relationship for over 8 months. The best I've ever had it. Speaking from experience, communication and the patience it takes to keep something so promising, so special and not to mention, the work that goes into it all. What do you think we as humans sometimes don't notice when talking and carrying on a two sided conversation? For men, wemon never stop talking and when they don't talk, it's like why haven't you said anything? Were you even listening? Like common right?? For wemon, oh my gosh he never listens! I go out of my way for this or for this yet he never really understands! For all humans, it's neccecary to feel like your being understood. That someone actually took the time am work to get to know you. What if, instead of desperately trying to be understood our selves, why not try to honestly listen and let them be understood. It's absolutely dynamite to see what worlds can be opened to. My dearest fiancée, was the most shy person I have ever met. I talked and chatted as I usually do, since I did most of the talking, I actually didn't know much about him. When I took the time to hear him talk, and to listen to the things he said, I found this to be the most beautiful mind and soul. In the little words he said, filled my little heart. It's taken awhile, but just listening and understanding not only will get yourself understood, but you just might find somebody who's been needing you. It's a wonder what you can do with simply listening.
It's a touchy subject. For sure. But it happens as much as we avoid it, the subject should be important to you and your spouse with or without kids, you both need to know the dangers. Will my child be safe around extended family, will bad things happen? All sorts of these kinds of questions are asked. Like last post, crisis sometimes can't be avoided. But it is up to you to be prepared, to be knowledgable, and to have a close bond with your family. God needs to be in all of your lives. Even then, crisis might happen. As we have been given agency, there will be some people to use agency for evil. Look for signs, be in tune with the spirit, and be knowledgable of how to see it early. And what happens when it does come to that to use that knowledge? Its an extremely hard time for everyone. Especially the child. Sin seperates us from God and therefore, seeing behavioral changes will happen. If you find out with anybody being sexually abused, contact someone right away. Sometimes these things don't emerge till years later. Find out everything you know if the situation and get in contact with a therapist that you feel is good. Watch over the victim wether it's your child or not, because there are many things that could go wrong. Like it's their fault, and it was their sin, and the whole world is collapsing on them. Life can become meaningless. Show them gently with love, patience, and kindness that Heavenly Father has always loved them, and that it wasn't their fault, and that they can be healed. You as the parent, guardian, or friend need to be there and be supportive. Do everything in your power to see things justified and to take care of both ends as much as you possibly can. Love, time and the savior a healing power can heal any wound. Remember the little things that fills our lives. Moments like this, or a ray of sunlight caught in our eyes, or the stillness during peaceful snowfall. Catching your kids reading to their dolls, watching your husband fold laundry, and opening one eye to witness a prayer given by a two year old not quite able to speak yet. Precious precious moments that must always be remembered. Catch those moments and hold them dear. The flesh shall fade along with worldly items. Things will be lost and gained, and even if you forget for a time, when The Lord welcomes you home, and the veil is parted, you will have what you held most dear. This is a picture taken by the man named Yosuf Karsh. He was a photographer that captured different emotions than any other photographer from his time. And he was able to do so with this picture. In this picture, Jean is closing his eyes, furrowing his brow, no smile with his fist against his chest. Jean was a man of music. Music filled his soul and from Yosuf's photograph, we are able to see the man behind one of our beloved and treasured hymns. Be still my soul. Amazing what God can do to fill your soul so much that it fills your entire being. Be still my soul, The Lord is on thy side. http://ldsmag.com/ebola-and-the-destroying-angel/ 1 A Word of Wisdom, for the benefit of the council of high priests, assembled in Kirtland, and the church, and also the saints in Zion— 2 To be sent greeting; not by commandment or constraint, but by revelation and the word of wisdom, showing forth the order and will of God in the temporal salvation of all saints in the last days— 3 Given for a principle with promise, adapted to the capacity of the weak and the weakest of all saints, who are or can be called saints. 4 Behold, verily, thus saith the Lord unto you: In consequence of evils and designs which do and will exist in the hearts of conspiring men in the last days, I have warned you, and forewarn you, by giving unto you this word of wisdom by revelation— (D&C 89) (If you've forgotton you might as well read the whole thing!) love them anyways. because its the best thing that ever happened. just remember that. theres just a point in time when really they don't remember the trash. don't get grumpy and don't expect him to always be on top of that. they smell because well in my boat, i live with girls, and he lives with guys. my roommates always smell nice and the trash always gets taken out if it smells. a group of boys will be like a group of animals...kinda but not really. but in that sense, remember that they forget and they don't even notice the smell. at least the ones i come in contact with.
The birds and the bees start eating each other? When those feelings kinda go ehh after stressful days and busy lives making tired out bees and hungry birds. Don't let this go! Physical touch and intimacy is still apart of the package to having true love! Once and a while, show a bit of your love by getting the kids to a babysitter and making dinner by candle light with soft music. I guarantee things will liven up ;) you are human after all! Birds and the bees will always keep humming along if you let it :) |